Vazhaipoo kuzhambu. I used this site as an inspiration: http://premascookbook.blogspot.com/2007/12/vazhaipoo-kuzhambu-banana-flowerblossom.html
Albuquerque is too cold to grow bananas unless you have a greenhouse, but if you have any large Asian markets you might be able to find them there. Bananas do great where I live--the leaves die back in the winter, but unless it gets unusually cold the plant survives and leaves grow back strong in the spring. One of my banana plants decided to throw a flower at the start of February when all of its vegetative leaves were dead from winter. Under such conditions I felt there was really no chance for the plant to actually mature any fruit, since no new leaves ever come out after the plant flowers.
A couple of bits of advice: banana flowers are rather bitter, and this can be tempered by soaking and par-boiling the cut-up flowers before adding them to your curry--I do the same sort of thing when preparing some of the more bitter varieties of Italian eggplant. Also, I like the addition of a bit of palm sugar--not enough to make the curry sweet, but it helps by balancing the strong flavors of curry, chili, and bitterness and gives this Indian dish more of an Indonesian character, which I like.