Fresh = leaves only, Cooking = stems during and add leaves at the end, that's the way I do it. I don't bother growing it since locally in Chicago it runs 3 for $ 1.00 and its everywhere and Cilantro tends to bolt quite early, making successive plantings a must. However, I'm very fond of Jamaican style dishes and I do grow "culantro" (shado beni) which has a similar but more robust flavor, and taste great in the "Bonnet" chutney and hot sauces that I make. Also their low growing dense plants that are slow to bolt....if you haven't tried it, put it on your herb's list to grow....good luck