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Common Courtesy or am I Old Fashioned?

kentishman

kentishman

A few times recently I have sent out seeds and never got an acknowledgment for them. Most recently, I sent out seeds and fresh pods to someone, not a member of this forum. I had promised the seeds, but I went the extra mile and packed a box with the seeds, fresh peppers, and other stuff. Took time out of my day to make a special trip to the post office and spent over $6 to mail them while they were very fresh.


I was waiting to hear they had arrived and was going to identify what all was in the box. Never heard over the weekend, so I checked and USPS tracking told me they were delivered Friday, Today, I sent an email asking about them, because I figured the guy was out of town and the fresh pods could be sitting out in the heat spoiling. I got a reply saying, yes, they got the package on Friday!!!

So, am I just old fashioned to expect a reply? I always let people know that I got the seeds and thank them. Just venting ...
 
Just succumb to the fact that in today's times, your a dinosaur. Its a satisfy me age and along as I get what I want, thats the end of it. Sad, but true. Look at how many people say please,thank you, excuse me etc. How about that crazed look you get when you hold the door open for them. My granny would smack me in the back of the head if I didnt mind my manners. Just glad my daughters have them,my job is done.
 
Hate to ponder this, but maybe it is cultural.  The business end of our farm does not export cause I am not sure about the laws.  But people ask often.  I tell them that as long as cash does not trade hands, I love to trade.  My daughter and I have a world map and when I get the living room painted, it is going on the wall with cork board.  Then a stick pin for each trade.  Its a way to have fun and learn world geography.  Hoping to get my son involved.
 
Anyway, I always get a thank you.  I always send a thank you.  When the world map is up, I'll send pictures of their stick pin and my kids in front of the map.  Who knows, maybe if they have kids mine will get pen pals and some education in sociology.  Coolest one to date is a Russian soldier serving in India.  Cant prove he is a Russian soldier, but his seed did come from India.
 
Trades n gifting here in the US is a bit different.  If it is a THP member, unless they are low post count and never seen again, I always get a PM.  Facebook, not so much.  I have just about given up on Facebook forums for that and other reasons.  I just about binge on THP for the same reason.

P.S.

Oh damn, I just realized THP is its own culture.
 
I always let people know if I have received something from them, as I know the feeling of wondering if someone has ever received something I may have sent to them (and I’d rather not be the cause of their anxious wondering). I still do all the other ‘old-fashioned’ things as well – say please/thank you, Yes/No Ma’am/Sir to those who are older than me or in authority (common sense as to who this applies to… I don’t say it to people just a few years older than me, or in certain social places/situations. I do make a point though to actually say clearly YES or NO instead of ‘Yeah/Nah’.)
 
I almost lost it a few months ago after I held the door open for someone. I watched about 5 people who specifically and consciously didn’t hold it open. The guy I held it open for was in a wheelchair! These (insert expletive here) deliberately walked around the guy, and one guy even rested the door up against his chair as he was trying to get through and just kept on walking to his car.  :mad:  :evil:
 
This is just the way I was raised, both in my family as well as being instilled with ‘Southern Hospitality’ by all those around me. For many years in my youth I went to a private school where you HAD to say Yes/No Ma’am/Sir and act with clear manners or you’d get in trouble.
 
And kudos to all the parents who still teach their kids such virtuous manners! Such 'common' courtesy is most certainly (sadly) far from common these days, and will only worsen as society/culture/people continue to degrade.
 
Sometimes it can take a couple days to thank someone. You asked on Monday, and they said they got it Friday (and thanked you hopefully?). If I were you I'd assume they were going to eventually thank you because you don't know. I have been busy myself with a lot of unopened mail mixed with boxes and envelopes, or the PO scans it as accepted but it is a my PO Box for a week, etc. When I see I have it and open it, I try it out, and give thanks! However sometimes in the meantime I am PMed and feel bad, because it is at the PO and they think I have it.
 
Point being, Friday to Monday is not long. Assume you would have received thanks and move on. Because being bitter when you have no idea would just be wasted energy.
 
If you wait a few weeks, then you know.
 
Just finished a trade with a THP member.  Made me realize something.  Sometimes the screen name and the real name do not line up in a way a person remembers what they were trading or with who.  Thinking maybe other people have trouble keeping track also.  So if you dont get a thank you, maybe it is one of we folk with horrible memory.  I try to give folk the benefit of the doubt.
 
Im like you I guess I expect a Thank you, unfortunately its become common practice not to respond, I mean, how difficult is it to send an email saying thanks. I have to say that most people I have communicated with do not respond. I Have sent things to the next province and keep waiting for a " Got it Thanks" but nope, I had to send an e-mail to confirm that he got it.
 
talking about thank yous and your welcome...
 
me and the daughter ran a 5k saturday, after they had a jumbalaya for the people.  i seen 2 guys stiring the pot...i say" thanks for the chow and thank yall for cooking...tastes great"(i lied)
 both gave me eye contact but not even a smile or even a kiss my butt.
  
 
go figure
 
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