Hi there lounge lizards, I dont know if I should ask this here, but really, I don't really have anywhere else to ask, so I might as well give it a shot!
Things are about to get pretty real here.
So, me and my current (only) girlfriend (Let's call her "Alex") have been together for, mm, 5 3/4 years now. Yay! Except, since January, I dunno, I've been...suspicious. I've had job problems pretty much our entire relationship, and she's stuck by me, and we both have a very deep connection to each other (whether or not thats just half a decade of communication I don't know). But a few months ago she confessed that she started possibly having feelings for someone else at work (let's call him Brodrick[?]). I told her a harmless crsh is w/e as long as it stays that way, etc. She point blank told me nothing would come of it, and that she'd address it and put a stop to it. And I for the most part believed her.
But I don't know, fellow chileheads, I don't know. I did say we have a deep connection, and through it I feel something isn't quite right. She's never (afaik) led me on about anything, and I have absolutely no reason to doubt her. But I do. I can feeeel something is amiss, it's in my bones.
Or it's rampant paranoia.
So what do I do? I could ask her, straight up confront Alex about that. Or I could confront Brodrick about it. Either way, how do I know they'll tell me the truth? If I believe them and they're on the up and up, everythings roses. But if they're lying, I'm a sucker, and if I think they are and they're not I'm pretty much an asshole for assuming my GF of half a decade would fool around on me.
I'm just getting stressed about all this. I know there are folk from all walks here, surely one of you has some sage wisdom for little old me. Please share?
Things are about to get pretty real here.
So, me and my current (only) girlfriend (Let's call her "Alex") have been together for, mm, 5 3/4 years now. Yay! Except, since January, I dunno, I've been...suspicious. I've had job problems pretty much our entire relationship, and she's stuck by me, and we both have a very deep connection to each other (whether or not thats just half a decade of communication I don't know). But a few months ago she confessed that she started possibly having feelings for someone else at work (let's call him Brodrick[?]). I told her a harmless crsh is w/e as long as it stays that way, etc. She point blank told me nothing would come of it, and that she'd address it and put a stop to it. And I for the most part believed her.
But I don't know, fellow chileheads, I don't know. I did say we have a deep connection, and through it I feel something isn't quite right. She's never (afaik) led me on about anything, and I have absolutely no reason to doubt her. But I do. I can feeeel something is amiss, it's in my bones.
Or it's rampant paranoia.
So what do I do? I could ask her, straight up confront Alex about that. Or I could confront Brodrick about it. Either way, how do I know they'll tell me the truth? If I believe them and they're on the up and up, everythings roses. But if they're lying, I'm a sucker, and if I think they are and they're not I'm pretty much an asshole for assuming my GF of half a decade would fool around on me.
I'm just getting stressed about all this. I know there are folk from all walks here, surely one of you has some sage wisdom for little old me. Please share?